Dear Abe,

I feel quite distressed about some of the comments that one of the people in my class says as a private comment, while we in an online class. He says that because it is a private comment, that nobody else can see, that it doesn’t matter what he says. I don’t want anyone to get into any trouble, but I do not want him to message me anymore. What should I do.

Online Hassle

Dear Online Hassle,

I’m sorry to hear that is happening to you. It is certainly not ok, to treat someone like that. What he is doing is wrong. All students at the uni are obliged to treat each other with respect, and cannot engage in bullying, harassing, or discriminatory behavior, regardless of whether it is in person or online. I would suggest taking screen shots of what has been sent to you, and make notes about what happened and when. Email these notes to yourself, so that you don’t lose them. Meet with one of the Uni’s Student Liaison Officers, who will be able to explain what your options are, and make sure that you are safe. You can email them at or call 8627 6808. Alternatively, you can lodge a complaint by going to: Most of all, look after yourself, and don’t be worried about him – he doesn’t seem to be worried about you.